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Who or What Are You Resisting?
06 Jun 2016

Who or What Are You Resisting?

55005984_a68198a215_mOver the last few months, I have gotten very interested in meditation. No no, don’t leave yet! I know a lot of people think meditation is kind of a weird voodoo science, but I really think it can help everyone during these times when busy is usually seen a synonymous with successful. If nothing else, trying to sit still for ten minutes without thinking about what you could/should be doing instead is a great way to find out how busy your mind is. I’m not going to get preachy about meditation though (visit Headspace). That’s not the point of this particular post.

On the app that I use, you can focus on all kinds of different series. The one I’ve been doing most recently is called acceptance, but really it’s about everything that we resist. The exercise asks you to do just one thing daily. You have to ask yourself the following question: “Who or what are you resisting?” You don’t want to ask it in any other way. If you say, “What am I resisting,” it can kind of change the way your brain reacts to the question. Ask it of yourself as if a friend or family member is asking you. Who or what are you resisting?

Now Andy, the Headspace guru, will tell you not to force an answer. The best thing is to kind of clear your head and see what pops in there. Since you’re just asking yourself, there is no worry about anyone judging you or your reply. You might be really surprised by your answers.

How Can This Help Your Work?

You might be saying, “That’s all well and good, but how can this fluffy duffy stuff help me get my job done?” The answer is that it potentially could help you a lot. Here are a few examples.

If you say, “I am resisting working with Jane,” the next step is to figure out why you are resistant to working with her. Do you feel that she doesn’t pull her own weight? Do you feel that she makes a lot of mistakes that you have to fix? These problems can be remedied. What’s really interesting, though, is that you might figure out that you’re resisting Jane because she does things that you also do, that you find diminish how you feel about yourself. Maybe you don’t like how impatient you are with people, and when you see Jane acting impatiently with you or others it really rubs you the wrong way.

If you say, “I am resisting asking for a promotion,” the next step is to ask yourself why. Are you intimidated, or are you resisting, your bosses? Are you not fully confident in yourself?

If you say, “I am resisting increasing my number of sales calls,” ask yourself why. Do you not believe in your products enough? Do you not feel you engage with people well enough?

Will You Try the Challenge?

You don’t have to report any of the specific results, but I highly encourage you to try out this exercise for five days. At the end of those five days, see what you have learned about yourself and where you sit in your life right now. Maybe you will find that some doors that you thought were permanently locked were actually just a little stuck. Maybe you’ll even find doors you didn’t know were there. I’d love to hear about your experiment if you’re willing to share!

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